Helping with baby: Siblings lend a hand

Your new baby needs you, but so does your older child. One way to spend time with both is by having her help you with the baby where she can.

Here are some ideas:

• Include your older child in as many activities with baby as possible. For example, you and your older child can sing a song to the baby.
• When you’re changing the baby your older child can fetch a diaper, hand you wipes, carry the diaper bag, or simply keep the baby amused while you diaper.
• When you’re dressing the baby, your older child can bring the stretch suit or the booties. You even can ask her to choose the outfit of the day—you can make this easier with a limited selection.
• When giving the baby a bath, have your older child pass you the soap, the shampoo, and the towel. Maybe big sister can pour a little rinse water over the baby or entertain her by squeaking the rubber ducky.
• When you’re bottle-feeding, allow your older child to hold the bottle for a little while or help burp the baby.
• When it’s playtime, your older child can shake a rattle for baby or help you select toys.
• Encourage your older child’s help by posting a chart of baby care tasks on the refrigerator. Add a special sticker every time she helps you with one of these jobs.